Leadership on Point

Are You A Spectator In Your Own Life?

June 21, 2013 John Dowd Jr. - Guest Author

At 50 years old, I got maybe the best gift anyone could ever get… I got fired.

Of course, at the moment it didn’t seem like a gift.  After a wonderful 30-year broadcast career, I found myself at a new chapter in my life with a burning question: What next?

The next logical step that my “mind” told me was to get another radio manager job, which would have been my TENTH.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m very grateful to have had a wonderful career.  But, I felt that the meaning in my life was no longer there.  While I did my best to help others, the corporate world had me focused less on people and more on profits.

Should I get a new job and feel like I was a spectator of my life and not living it? Or should I stop and try to finish a book that I had started a few years before, on positive thinking and well-being?  How wonderful to think about this project of slowing down and doing something that brought true meaning into both my life and the lives of others.

I discovered that I heard two voices speak to me.  One, the voice I call “The Outside Me”, kept pushing me to get another job; to keep the money coming in.  That voice was the voice of fear, the voice that lives in the external world that measures success by the external things in our life like money, accomplishments and material stuff.

That’s the voice in all of us that says things like, “We’re not the kind of people that can feel free and live our dreams.”  When that voice spoke, it didn’t feel good.

The other voice that spoke to me made me feel amazing.  I call that voice “The Inside Me” and it encouraged me to let go of the fear.  That voice comes from a higher place and is not concerned with an uncertain future or a regrettable past.  That voice is the voice that believes in US.  That voice seemed to provide clarity and meaning.

The voice of the “Inside Me” is our soul.  It is the higher part of us.  It is the Universe, Nature, God, whatever name you want to give it, speaking through us.  We as humans do something strange… we feel 100% comfortable with praying to a higher power and speaking to it asking for help but, yet, we marginalize it when we think we are getting signals back.  When we get an intuition, a hunch or an exciting thought, that is powerful that is our higher self speaking to us. This can be enhanced through meditation and practice quieting our minds.

Albert Einstein said: “I did not discover the laws of the Universe through the rational mind.”  My interpretation of that amazing quote is that the great Albert Einstein discovered the value of intuition, his voice inside, the bigger part of himself.

By listening to the voice of the “Inside Me” – the voice that felt right – it helped me to slow down and use two months to decide what I wanted to do.  Over that two-month period a series of miraculous coincidences, or as Carl Jung calls “synchronistic events”, began to take place that gave me clear signs that told me to continue writing the book.

Today I’m LIVING my life and no longer living as a spectator of it.  As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

The “Inside Me” was right.  What is your inside voice telling you today?


Written by John Dowd, Jr., author of the book, “Heroes Mentors and Friends”, speaker, and broadcaster  can be heard weekdays on SiriusXM “70’s on 7” 12noon to 6pm.  “Heroes Mentors and Friends” takes a look at INSIDE of who we really are, enriching our lives OUTSIDE. This book helps us discover meaning from our “bigger” life inside, while maintaining our outside, “9-5” life.  Find out more about John at johndowdjr.com or on Facebook at Facebook.com/heroesmentorsandfriends.